New York girlfriend

The arrangement is bicoastal arbitrage. SF has the male-skewed tech scene and a census of seven; New York has everyone else. The market clears at 30,000 feet: the New York girlfriend lets an SF founder stay functionally single Monday through Thursday and devoted on alternating weekends, a schedule indistinguishable from being locked in, which is the point.

The phrase circulates in SF dating discourse as both flex and confession. As a flex: "my girlfriend's in New York" signals range, liquidity, and a life outside the group house. As a confession: the relationship survives precisely because it cannot interfere with the sprint. No coiner is attributed; the arrangement predates the name by at least a decade, and the prior art is documented: in 2014 a dating startup crowdfunded flying sixteen single New York women to San Francisco for a weekend of first dates with tech men. The experiment made national news. The imbalance it priced has not moved since.

The canonical portrait: she has a real job, friends with non-overlapping cap tables, and an apartment with furniture. She thinks SF is his phase. He thinks New York is hers. The relationship ends when one of them is proven right, typically at Series B.